Okay so it wasnt that i was gauging them too fast it was that my friend put in the taper too far & my ear blew out thank god its still in tact. I had in these plugs that were 9/16" & i though they had a flare that made them 5/8" so I went out & got 5/8" plugs but they were way too big but i tried to put them in anyways (stupid me) and now i have one blown out ear. Yes, I read the link on the other BAF thread but I need to know should i downsize or just not wear plugs entirely? right now i have nothing in. Also, how long will it take to heal? and what should I do in general to keep this from happening again? What did you guys do when/if your ears tore?

 just keep your jewelry out entirely, for a while. use emu oil for massages, and massage the shit out of it once / when / if it doesn't hurt. good luck. 

Thanks but I dont have any emu oil :/ are there any good stores you would reccomend i buy it from? or any substitutes?

 you can buy it from here :) if you can't order online, try a health store. 

Yasmin:

Okay so it wasnt that i was gauging them too fast it was that my friend put in the taper too far & my ear blew out thank god its still in tact.

I'm kind of confused about your whole stretching scenario (how can you put a taper in too far?), so I think you should read this:

 http://forums.bodyartforms.com/forums/t/5641.aspx

 I'm confused. Was the blow out caused when your "friend put in the taper too far" (which is confusing in the first place), or by you trying to put in 5/8" plugs when you weren't 5/8"? 

I also love emu oil- even if you buy the smallest vial, in my experience, it will last you quite awhile. 

To keep this from happening again- only wear plugs in your size. Just because you can fit 5/8" flares doesn't mean you can fit 5/8" plugs. The way the flare goes in doesn't stretch your lobes as much as an entire 5/8" plug would. 

ninjagirl:

If for some reason you can't get emu oil, massages with any suitable oil will help break down the scar tissue once the skin has healed. The massaging is the important bit, imo - vitamin E oil, bio oil and jojoba are also good.

However, since this is a fresh stretch, you likely should do sea salt soaks, nice clear water rinse and leave the ear alone until it's healed some.  Emu oil is about the only oil appropriate for use on a fresh stretch... I believe.  and NO massages until your ear is healed some.

Also, tapers are supposed to go all the way through your ear and then a plug inserted at the same size as the taper.  Have you been wearing tapers in your ears for longer than say the few minutes it should take to stretch your piercing??

ninjagirl:

Yeah, I specified that those would only be good once the skin has healed :) I definitely agree on all counts. Poor lobe definitely needs some TLC and rest before any massages.

misread... and was more concerned about the massaging too early than the oils.

well i hate to admit it but i wasnt using an actual taper i was using a makeup brush D:

so i can do a sss on open wounds?

 WTF? WOW...

Um YES... lots of soaks and go have your ear checked out! 

 : head desk :

I should have known that

 that was terrible of me i fail

But thanks guys for your advice & tolerating my lack of intelligence D:

Yasmin:

well i hate to admit it but i wasnt using an actual taper i was using a makeup brush D:

so i can do a sss on open wounds?

YOWZA!!  Yeah, NEVER NEVER NEVER use household items for stretching or jewelry.  Always spend the money on proper tools, or don't stretch til you can.  Follow the advice posted here, and read the stretching guide.  Be careful!  Let us know how it turns out!