well i just went up to a 4g like to weeks ago and i didnt know that double flare plug were not good until ear is healed. so i forced them in yesturday and today in the morning i took them out and pus came out and they bleed a little. so wat i want to know what should i do to make them heal? thanks you guys

 Downsize (I suggest at least 2 sizes) and do some sea salt soaks.  Wait at least 6 months for your lobes to heal before attempting stretch again.

 Yikes, yeah stick to no flare plugs or single flare (without a groove for the o-ring) for a fresh stretch. Blood and pus is never good, so downsize or just go naked and do a sea salt soak at least once a day. Also don't touch them any more than neccessary, it'll just irritate them even more. 

 so do really have to down size their isnt way that i can stay at a 4g but just take really good care of it

 If you want fucked up scared lobes, go ahead and stay there... 

 okay so im new to this so how do  i downsize just is it by going with out them

 You can either put in smaller plugs (single or no flare) or you can just go without plugs for a while.

 coo well thanks for answer my questions guy. so just to end any daults from my end and sorry to be buggin so much but if i were to stay at a 4g it would just look all fucked up and scared

 You should take a look at this.  The links at the top show what your ears can look like when you don't stretch properly (including not downsizing when you have a tear).