I've stretched my ears very slowly and I've never had any problems with stretching.

I was at 4g for about 5 or 6 months and I decided I wanted to go bigger.

I stretched with one of my friend's, very throughly cleaned, acrylic tapers.

I wasn't happy with using acrylic since I've always used metal but I didn't want to fork out my money.

I then put in his, also very throughly washed, 2g gorilla glass single-flare bulletholes

They were fine- no problems.

I waited for a little over a month and 3 weeks to stretch to 0g.

I, again, borrowed my friend's taper, which again, was acrylic.

I also borrowed a different friend's acrylic 0gs. I have no money.

The stretch was a lot more painful than it ever has been and my right ear bled a very little bit.

They felt extremely tight in my ears for about 5 days and I knew I should've downsized.

I traded the 2g gorilla glass bulletholes for the 0gs though so I didn't have smaller jewelry.

I decided the only thing I could really do was wait it out and hope it would go smoothly.

I washed them with saline solution twice a day and turned them as much as possible to prevent sticking and loosen them up.

After those 5 days, they become looser and not painful.

They stayed normal for about to weeks.

Then one day I go to take out the plug in my right ear and it has scabs on it and is painful.

I look at my ear and it was blown out horribly; it looks like an ear hemroid.

I bend my lobe to see the other side on the mirror and a huge raw mass of skin is pertruding from the back of the hole.

It's been about 2 or 3 weeks and not much has improved.

I think it may have gotten slightly infected from a small infectioin-like discharge and bad smell.

Yesterday my single-flare obsidian or onyx plugs came in, they seem to be helping.

I still have a almost stinging pain when I put the earring back in and there's a huge scab on the piece of skin.

I've been cleaning the hole and around the hole with a q-tip and saline solution and removing all puss and blood-like things.

Every morning I wake up with a crusty hunk of puss and scab where my ear lobe meets my head.

I clean the scab on the back of my ear and it seems to slowly be coming off.

The blowout extends to about 3/4s the way down the lenght of the earring. It is extrememly sensitive and I want to make it as better as possible.

I know I should've done sized. I need to know what to do know unless you have a time machine I could use.

Downsize to take the pressure off your lobe.

Some people have had success by inserting the jewelry from the back of the lobe (pushing the blowout into the lobe and absorbing it - but I'm not sure if this is done right away or not?)...

 go with your original plan and downsize.

 I think SSS would be appropiate for this if not emu oil would work.

go back to your 2g, leave it in for a few months and when you know your ear is ready, move up again.

Except this time...get yourself some plumber's tape or my personal favorite, bondage tape & tape that 2g plug until you reach 0g.

 It's painless, efficient and in the long run [depending on your desired size] cheaper.

 And dont share porous materials with another person, ICKY. If you happen to create an open wound, then you're just asking for a possible infection, or worse. If you cant afford the proper materials to stretch with, wait. You have ONE set of lobes to last your entire life, do you really wanna risk them?