my ear looks like this mates

http://s260.photobucket.com/albums/ii9/blowoutslideshow/?action=view&current=chalkplug.jpg

i was at an inch but took them out for healing

ive noticed a bit of shrinkage on the blowout, but is there a way to make it almost unoticable w/o scalpeling it?

Greenleaf:

ive noticed a bit of shrinkage on the blowout, but is there a way to make it almost unoticable w/o scalpeling it?

Most likely, no.

What on earth are you wearing in your lobe?

that isn't my pic, his ear looks similar to mine

 My suggestion? Take every bit of advice you can find on here. I had the same problem, not so badly, but yeah. I did what what recommended for me to do (massages, better plugs, lots of time, etc), I'm now at 1/2" (downsized from 1"), and it is slightly noticable still, but not enough for someone to really see unless they were paying very close attention. Huge improvement, basically.