Ok so i just started stretching my ear last week. I started with a 14g taper and everything was going smoothly. I bought a size 10g along with the 14g. Not knowing what I know now about stretching, I tried to put the 10g in my right ear. It wouldn't go through so i just left it and put the 14g back in. the next day i took them out to clean them and my ear lobes were sore, the right one even more so. so i just kept the earings out all together. now i am wearing 20g earrings again. my left lobe is fine, but my right one bleeds a little when i try to put the 20g in, and i can hardly get it in. I don't know wether i should let it close then get it re-pierced, or put the 20g in and leave it in until it heals, if it will.

hope that makes sense. 

Do you have the 20g in right now?  If so, I'd try sea-salt-soaks.  You did the right thing by downsizing immediately.  Try treating it like a new piercing.

wow fast reply

Well i just took it out and i put some porixide on it. i can feel the dry blood on my earlobe. should i put it back in now? 

NO PEROXIDE! sea salt soaks only.

My advice? Stop any future stretching until you've put in the effort to actually research this and come up with some of the very most basic information - like not using peroxide on your piercings. There's a good stretching guide here, and the memories in the livejournal community stretched are invaluable.

 Over the past couple of weeks i have been researching. i have left the 20g in for about two weeks now. today, i took them out to clean my ears and my right ear is tender and i has a lump in it. At this point it is hard to put the earring back in. should i just leave the earrings out and sea salt soak it or do something else?

you shouldn't be taking them out to clean them. if you're doing sss, you just have to rinse the salty water off to keep your ears from drying out. the lump you feel is most likely scar tissue. if you can get the 20g jewelry back in, leave them in for at least one more month before taking them out again. if it won't go in, or hurts to try, leave it out and have your lobe repierced after it heals.

 ok thanks for the help, i will try this. 

Good for you for downsizing and listening to the advice given.  Just making sure, but are the 20g earrings you have in now made of a  good material for healing? 

 At first I had those cheap earrings from claires but now i have in these silver diamond hoops. well at least the color is silver.