to all the modified parents, how do you feel about your kids getting mods (now or at 18)? and how do your kids feel about your tattoos/piercings? 

i was thinking about this the other day when the bf and i were talking. a joke between us is like "what will the grandkids think?" and then i saw a dad on tv with a bunch of tattoos. it made me very curious.

 when alex was in kindergarten he would say that he was the only one with a "cool" mom :)  Now he doesn't even see the mods really.  I think if he had the choice he would prefer that I lost weight and stopped smoking long before I took out my jewelry :)

 I would have no problem with alex getting his ears pierced right now (14.5 yo) because FINALLY he is starting to show some respect for his body as far as wanting to shower and stay clean.  Unforch, divorce is a bitch and if his dad says no then no is what has to be followed.  Plus dad reminds alex everytime he sees him that only "fags" get their ears pierced.  That goes for men and women.

don't know why I got divorced :|

My son is only a year (on wednesday[ :)]) and my piercer and her husband are quickly becoming Scott and I's best friends. They have a little guy whos 15 months and we were talking about this the other day. I would be fine with Julian getting his ear's pierced at 12 - 15 as long as he was mature enough and showered and such (like Quinnn stated). I got mine done at 10 (gunned) so even if he was 10 and was mature enough I would rather have it done properly for him. Other piercings I would have to take them as they came, and weigh all the pros/cons with his attitude, what would come with that certain piercing, etc. I started stretching at 14, so I'd say nothing before 14 for stretching.

Tattoos, I would say 16 would be the earliest. I got my first (and favourite) tattoo at 16, and if he knew the pros/cons with having tattoo and he had waited at least 6 months with the idea in his head, I'd let him go for it.

Scott (my bf) hates piercings on guys as well, although he is contemplating getting his septum done after seeing me get mine. He loves tattoos though. We've come to an agreement that if its what Julian likes (piercing/tattoo wise) then we will let him get it done. Just because Scott thinks ear piercings on guys is stupid doesn't mean that J wont be able to get any if he wants it for himself.

Well, my son is only 19 months, but me and my wife have discussed this on many occasions already.  My wife and I are both pierced (ears only for now) and well tattooed.  I think we pretty much both agree, piercings are ok whenever he decides he wants one, if he wants one.  Stretching on the other hand will wait until he is 16+, depending on how 'mature' he is at that age.  He will need to realize that piercings and tattoos are viewed very differently but many people.  As far as tattoos, we dont think any ink before the age of 18.  There are variables that we would take into consideration depending on what he would want tattooed if before the age of 18.

 As for what he thinks of mommy and daddys tattoos/piercings, he really doesnt even see them.  Im curious in 5, 10, 15 years what he will think though.

My oldest is 10 and I would be fine if she wanted to get her ears (properly) pierced because I feel she is at a point where she can take care of them and understand the responsibility. I wouldn't allow my 5 (almost 6) yr old to because she's too young (same obviously goes for my almost 8 month old). As for other piercings when they get older, it really depends on age, maturity level, and what they want pierced. I'm far more flexible with it than my hubby, but I normally have the final say on things. LOL. I think I would "ok" most piercings as long as I took them and they understood how to take of the piercings, and they were generally good, honest, responsible kids. If they went behind my back and did it, I would not react well.

When it comes to something like tattoos, I would really prefer them to wait until they are older to get them. I wish I had (or at least put more thought into them).

 As for how my kids feel about my piercings and tattoos, they love them. :) They can't wait for me to get more (tattoos).

 

 I also have to add that my son has stated that if he gets his ears pierced ever he won't get them needled. 

I may need to have his hearing checked.  *headshake*

quinnn:

 I also have to add that my son has stated that if he gets his ears pierced ever he won't get them needled. 

I may need to have his hearing checked.  *headshake*

 you have a teenage son on your hands hehehe.

quinnn how does he feel about your activity on here? and such

 

 

 On the boards? Hell, I've been here for over 5 years.  It's part of me.

quinnn:

 I also have to add that my son has stated that if he gets his ears pierced ever he won't get them needled. 

I may need to have his hearing checked.  *headshake*

 

 

Unless he wants them scalpelled like mom.... 

 hahaha.  no.  he wants them gunned because it is less painful.  :|

 My daughter is 16. (I'm 39) She has 3 lobe piercings on each side and wants a 4th.  Only 1 piercing on each side is 12-10ga that I allowed her to do. Of course I'm considered a 'cool dad' because of my 1/2" lobes.   But I have some odd feelings being in a totally traditional 'normal' family and traditional 'normal' neighborhood country subburb and I'm a manager in an office setting so again, I'm the odd man out.  When I go to dinner with my daughter, people think we are boyfriend and girlfriend (Such as our adventures in South Beach this past spring break) but I think it might be because I dont look like the 'normal dad' with my anatometal eyelets, mirror shades, blown out jeans and a cool tee.... with my 16 year old daughter at my side...  

I dont know, its really hard to put into words.  I have my daughter part time.. So when I have her, I feel like I'm supposed to be more of a 'father figure' who should lead by example like all those around me  (but I dont).. then I drop her off and I'm "Single Man" for up to a week solid and then back to "Dad" when I pick her up again.  So you can see how my identities shift back and forth and sometimes I feel like I look like 'single man' while I should be looking like 'dad' instead.  Actions though speak louder and my actions as a dad show her a guy with 2 jobs who expresses himself the way he wants to (with limits) and treats others as one would hope to be treated...  so I guess I would have to say 'so what' that I come across as a short haired hippy dad that hangs out at music festivals where the air gets a little smokee.    I dunno... you see how I bounce back and forth?  But I guess its just my perception of what a traditional dad should be like.  Her mom is a super strict screaming monster and I'm super laid back, never yell, comfortable to be with.  

I guess I would have to ask the question right back to you teens...  How would you feel if your Dad had stretched lobes, wore today's trends and took you to a South Beach rooftop party??  Would you think I was a pushover inappropriate dad setting bad examples of counterculture beliefs? Or would you appreciate my beliefs in being yourself and loving all others around you?  Do you teens really need a monster parent in your life to keep you in line?

Brian:

I guess I would have to ask the question right back to you teens...  How would you feel if your Dad had stretched lobes, wore today's trends and took you to a South Beach rooftop party??  Would you think I was a pushover inappropriate dad setting bad examples of counterculture beliefs? Or would you appreciate my beliefs in being yourself and loving all others around you?  Do you teens really need a monster parent in your life to keep you in line?

I have a strict parent and a laid back parent, and I can say that I would much rather spend time with my Dad. I love my Mom (the strict one) but when given an option I know that I can totally be myself around my Dad. My Dad has no tattoos or piercings, neither does my Mom other than double lobes at standard 16g.

My Dad now lives in British Columbia and jokes around about STILL not being offered any good magic mushrooms. Hes very loose and comical and always has a good time. I appreciate being with him a lot, and when asked who I wanted to fly in for my sons birthday I chose my Dad because I knew he would make his visit a great time.

Brian:

 My daughter is 16. (I'm 39) She has 3 lobe piercings on each side and wants a 4th.  Only 1 piercing on each side is 12-10ga that I allowed her to do. Of course I'm considered a 'cool dad' because of my 1/2" lobes.   But I have some odd feelings being in a totally traditional 'normal' family and traditional 'normal' neighborhood country subburb and I'm a manager in an office setting so again, I'm the odd man out.  When I go to dinner with my daughter, people think we are boyfriend and girlfriend (Such as our adventures in South Beach this past spring break) but I think it might be because I dont look like the 'normal dad' with my anatometal eyelets, mirror shades, blown out jeans and a cool tee.... with my 16 year old daughter at my side... 

I'm sorry to go off topic, but I got My Father the Hero flashbacks from that. :P

 

Brian:

I dont know, its really hard to put into words.  I have my daughter part time.. So when I have her, I feel like I'm supposed to be more of a 'father figure' who should lead by example like all those around me  (but I dont).. then I drop her off and I'm "Single Man" for up to a week solid and then back to "Dad" when I pick her up again.  So you can see how my identities shift back and forth and sometimes I feel like I look like 'single man' while I should be looking like 'dad' instead.  Actions though speak louder and my actions as a dad show her a guy with 2 jobs who expresses himself the way he wants to (with limits) and treats others as one would hope to be treated...  so I guess I would have to say 'so what' that I come across as a short haired hippy dad that hangs out at music festivals where the air gets a little smokee.    I dunno... you see how I bounce back and forth?  But I guess its just my perception of what a traditional dad should be like.  Her mom is a super strict screaming monster and I'm super laid back, never yell, comfortable to be with.  

I guess I would have to ask the question right back to you teens...  How would you feel if your Dad had stretched lobes, wore today's trends and took you to a South Beach rooftop party??  Would you think I was a pushover inappropriate dad setting bad examples of counterculture beliefs? Or would you appreciate my beliefs in being yourself and loving all others around you?  Do you teens really need a monster parent in your life to keep you in line?

 I'm not a teen, but I hope I can still comment on this. :)

I wouldn't have a problem with a modified parent, because I love my parents for being good people, not what they look like. For most of my childhood and teen years, my dad had long hair (which tended to fro lawl), and had this "biker" vibe that scared a lot of my friends, he wasn't a "regular" looking dad, but I never did mind. My parent also weren't very strict with me, I was pretty well behaved on my own, I seemed to know the rules and my limits without having to be reminded, and my mom has also been pretty open minded when it came to things like body mods.

My brother needed a different set of parenting rules, because he was a bit of a troublemaker, so in his case he needed (and got) a strict monster parent!

As for taking your daughter to parties, I never experienced this, so I am not sure if this encourages similar unsupervised behaviour, or if it would give a kid just enough of a taste that they wouldn't feel the need to party with their friends in a situation where they might be influenced to try things that mom and dad probably wouldn't approve of.

Thanks both Madfad and Tara!  These are good words.

(for the record about 'taking' her to a party.. we more or less stumbled upon it and went in, so it wasnt planned or anything) 

I'm gonna have to see that movie! LOL 

My mother has her nostril and bellybutton pierced along with two regular sized ear-piercings on each ear.  We both got our nostrils done together, it was a really cool experience  I was 14 at the time.  I don't think she minds me having piercings, its just my lack of asking her sometimes, actually on many occasions...  I've grown out of that phaze and she's really nice about my mods now.  I reallyyyy appreciate having a parent who lets me be me.  Her rule is basically "lets talk about it first, don't jump into things", which I have grown to respect.