so yeah my last post got locked so im starting it over again.and to everyone im sorry for starting that whole thing.um yeah to the last thing i said on the other descussion all i wan saying my friends have had gauges for a long time and they never really had problems.i mean cant there be more than one way to gauge ears safefully.thank you so much for all the great advice and im sorry for all the stupid questions i just dont knwo who to ask.

 I hate to say this but most people don't know the difference between lobes that are healthy and have been stretched properly and ones that are unhealthy.  I don't care if they have been stretching for years, they may not know what is right and what is not.

Look at Toph. 

Waiting is very important. For each stretch you make mico tears, and your body needs time to heal those, the bigger the stretch the bigger the tears, the more damage done to your body. You only have one set of lobes, why even risk damaging them? Take it slow and steady, its also a great way to learn about yourself.

Its kind of like you wouldnt get a tattoo without thinking about it, you wouldnt want to do something permanent to your ears without thinking it all the way through and doing it the best way...

ok im just gonna do it the way you guys are telling me cause it seems like you guys know your shit.:)

thank you

if it were easier, trust me we would say so.  just get pierced bigger if you plan on going bigger.  it makes things much easier. 

wuts the biggest i should go...i mean for the first piercing.

12g?

thats wicked long yeah

it is definately worth the wait. stretching your ears should be considered a permanent mod, and stretching too fast (regardless if they *seem* fine, they're not) will cause irreparable damage which will hinder further stretching. bad stretches, skipping sizes, etc causes scar tissue to build up and scar tissue is tough and hard to stretch, not to mention ugly.

time is your friend. :)

yeah but 2 and a half years seems like a long time to move up 4 sizes.liek i wanna go to 1/2" that should take me around 3-4 years.

right or somethin like that.

It does seem like a long time, but think of the last three years of your life; gone by pretty fast, eh?  Also, this gives you time to get used to and enjoy each new size, and even give you an opportunity to change your goal size.  What if you get to 2g and absolutely fall in love with it and decide to stay there - If you skipped that size or didn't give yourself enough time to get used to it you wouldn't know.  Also, while all your friends are at their goal sizes and you're still just getting there, you can look and see how beautiful and healthy your lobes are compared to their blown out ugly cat ass lobes.

 It's actually a very enjoyable journey even though it takes so long, so enjoy the ride and get to know your body and yourself better. 

yeah :)

so yeah i decided that im gonna get pierced at 14g;p

hmm i need help with my mom she said she would let me gauge my ears but she is worried abotu infection.wut should i tell so she wont be worried.im pretty responsible for my age i think thats why she is letting me do this.i just dont want to scare her or anything.but yeah help me:)